...that I am reading the book "Have a New Kid by Friday" by Dr. Kevin Leman right now. And
it is a good thing that I just read the section about anger. And more specifically:
"Never get angry. As soon as you get angry, you'll be back at square one. I understand that there are triggers-things your kids do that make you angry. But you're the adult in the situation. You are the one who ultimatley decides when you get angry. Don't let your children control your moods. If you get angry, an explosion of anger is like throwing up all over your child. The release in tension may feel good temporarily, but look what you've done to your child."
...And it is a good thing I was on the phone with Jenette when I discovered this:

...while the boys were napping. And it is a good thing the boys were napping when I discovered it. It is a good thing that I remember my friend Kendra in Japan telling me a story about her daughter writing with ink on her nice upholstered chair...but they got it out. Because between just reading that "anger" section the night before and by having some time to cool off-I was able to think about it and "respond" versus "react" (another subject in the book). And I remember the advice a woman working at a Honda dealership gave me a couple of years ago. She said "never cry over something that can't cry over you."
Man, it sure was hard not to cry over the couch. Did I mention that we have had this couch for 7 days? And that is ball point pen. And that the boys never touched our old couch with a ball point pen. It is pretty obvious who the culprit is. With all the "Ws" and all.
But I got online and the resounding advice is windex or purell. Something with alcohol. And that it will take a lot of time. And patience.
Patience patience patience calm calm calm calm. Calm. Calm. Calm.